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10 Great Questions to Ask While Dating

Courting these days has gotten so sketchy, fickle, and damn near non-existent. We’re falling head over heels, ready to sell the farm for someone without getting the full rundown on them, then looking like “Boo Boo The Foo” l when the skeletons start to come out of the closet and their true self emanates. And what’s the one thing that we’re always saying in the end? “Had I known in the beginning….” Well, as my father used to say, an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure. In other words, having more knowledge on a subject can help you better determine your next move. More specifically, asking the right questions of an aspiring mate makes all the difference between living happily ever after, dodging a bullet, or sobbing shoulda coulda wouldas. So, this article is going give you the questions you need to ask “Potential Bae” right out the gate to help you decide if you want to get in the car and take that ride or be like Tre, from Boyz N The Hood, and say “Lemme out, doe”.

Do You Have Kids?

A must to ask, not because it could be an automatic deterrent, but because it leads you, should you choose to go further, to ask the follow up question of what is his/her relationship with the mother/father. Knowing both makes for a smoother path down Relationship Road.

What is your Five-Year Plan?

Back in the day, this was a question I would scoff at like “How do I know what I’m going to do in five years?!” or “Anyone can “plan” what they want to do with their life, but does it actually happen?” But as I’ve grown, I’ve come to respect this question because now we are choosing for life, not just for a good time, and want something more concrete and realistic.

What are your religious views?

Because I doubt you’d want to bring an atheist or devil worshipper home to your God-fearing, Momma.

What is your living situation?

For this, I would caution you not to judge or be quick to run if he/she lives at home with a family member, it could be for various reasons. You’ll be able to decode the sincere ones with a plan from the fraud lame leeches.

What are your family values?

The mindset and family background can play a huge role in the relationship dynamic: How do they feel about marriage? Do they want kids? How’s their relationship with Mom/Dad/Parents? 

What are your financial goals? (How do you feel about budgeting? Saving?)

One of the main reasons for the demise of a relationship are finances. This question should be in your top 3.

Do you have many of friends of the opposite sex?

This is a good gauge test because there are many who aren’t cool with their mate fraternizing with them once they’re in a relationship and will want you to cut it back. You can then decide if YOU would be cool with that.

What are your political views?

If that’s not really your thing, do you at least vote?

What’s your vice?

Not that you’re judging, but that you just want to know what you’re getting into, because nowadays you must ask. This can range from smoking weed to swinging.

What are your interests?

The simplest question of all because you DO NOT want to end up with a weirdo who lives for Star Wars movies and Game of Thrones…not that there’s anything wrong with that. *smirk*

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SPOTTED: Bernice Burgos, Miss DC USA Kara McCullough, and Seven of Bad Girls Club

Bernice Burgos, Miss DC USA Kara McCullough, and Seven of Bad Girls Club were all spotted out partying at Gryphon on Sunday!

 

Bernice looking gorgeous in white

 

Miss DC USA Kara McCullough rocking her beautiful curls

 

Seven of Bad Girls Club keeping it classy in black

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Made in DC: 5 Local Food Brands To Support

DC is a constantly growing city of culture, people, and most important, FOOD! As a Foodie, I love this area because I can pretty much walk to any street and take my pick of several types of cuisine.

While chains are great, local restaurants truly capture the essence of the area, so be sure to check out five of my favorite local food brands ASAP!

NuVegan Cafe 
2928 Georgia Ave NW

This spot started during a time when being a vegan or vegetarian wasn’t so big in DC. Although they have gone through a few names, they have stayed true to their vision and constantly put out great meat-free salads, sandwiches, and entrees. They also makes great fresh juices and smoothies. You won’t be disappointed because the portions are a nice size. Come hungry and ready to enjoy some healthy dishes.

Soupergirl
314 Carroll Street NW

I remember when this place first opened with the Soupergirl logo. I was drawn to it and the wonderful smells coming out the kitchen. At the time, they didn’t have a actual sit down shop and once that opened, I went in to try my first cup of soup. The kind slips my mind, but it was filled with so much flavor. I love that this is a locally owned shop. Her story of a comedian turned Soupergirl is pretty cool. Check it out!

Timber Pizza Co  
809 Upshur Street NW

I actually went to junior high with one of the owners so I’m very excited to support this brand. DC stand up! Okay, anyway this spot was started because these guys hated their jobs, but  loved lunch. Both co-owners were working at a local tech company and became buddies. They both shared a passion in pizza and basketball and pretty knew they would never be pro-basketball players and from that love the pizza brand was built. Their menu changes seasonally. A fan favorite seems to be the Green Monster which contains pesto, fresh mozzarella, festa cheese, zucchini, and kale. Yum!

Broodjies Bier

This is a Dutch-inspired sandwich and salad company based in DC. The ideas sparked when Sarah Frimpong travelled to Amsterdam for a year to study abroad and had her first bite of a Dutch broodjie. She tried as many as she could to really get the ingredients and taste down. Once she got back to DC after a corporate job, quit, registered her LLC, and started a kickstarter and it far exceeded the amount she asked for. That’s when it all started. They make fresh salads and sandwiches everyday to deliver to various places in her D.C. And VA area.

Turning Natural
2025 Martin Luther King Jr Ave SE
Annette Turner was the founder of Turning Natural. She came up with an idea of living holistically in your everyday life. She, unfortunately, passed away in 2010 due to breast cancer. Her daughter, Jeri Evans, decided not to let the dream fade but rather evolve by continuing her vision. They make all types of smoothies, have natural juices, and make some pretty delicious food. They have a black bean burger that I am personally curious about trying.
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3 Spots To Get Your Brunch On In The City

On the weekends breakfast is my favorite meal to indulge in; but after a night of partying, the last thing I want to do is get up at the crack of dawn to catch it being served. Thankfully living in the DC area where brunch culture is alive and poppin, I can enjoy pancakes and omelets between the hours of 11:00am and 3:00pm.  According to dc.eater.com, there are 30+ brunches in the nation’s capital. Here are 3 of my favorite from that number:


Founding Farmers
www.wearefoundingfarmers.com

Located on 1924 Pennsylvania Ave. NW, this elegant restaurant describes itself as a “co-op-owned American eatery dishing out market-driven comfort cuisine along with rustic-chic style”. The decor and the food here is amazing. From Uncle Buck’s Beignets to cocktails made with local distilled spirits, it’s no surprise to see Founding Farmer diners posting pictures of their delicious meals and drinks all over social media.  

Brunch is served Saturday, Sunday, and Holiday Mondays  from 9am-2pm. Both the DC and MoCo locations serve an “a la carte” style brunch.  To experience the Farmers Market Buffet Brunch,  go to the Tysons Corner location in Virginia.

 

Gryphon
www.thegryphondc.com

Nightly, Gryphon is one of the best places to party, and on Sunday afternoon it’s one of the best places to brunch! Please do not underestimate brunch being held at a “club”. The buffet is great and the bottomless mimosa option makes this brunch a winner with me. Besides the food, the energy is awesome: a stylishly dressed room enjoying themselves, dancing while the DJ does their thing in the background.  After brunch hours, the true turn up begins so feel free to stay for the after party.

The Gryphon is located at 1337 Connecticut Avenue NW IN Washington, D.C.  Brunch hours are between 11 am -4 pm. Reservations are highly recommended.

 

Mad Hatter
www.madhatterdc.com

Matter Hatter is a “lively tavern known for beer & pub fare channels Alice’s Wonderland with an upside down room & more”. The mythical atmosphere and decent prices are what make this place great.  Brunch offers standard  breakfast american fare: steak and eggs,  chicken and waffles, pancakes, or French toast.  My favorites on the menu are Mad Man’s Breakfast or the Hatter Skillet. They’re both magically delicious! (I couldn’t help myself, I had to say it lol)

Brunch hours are between 11:30 am and 2 pm. It is located at 1319 Connecticut Ave NW.

 

 

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The Love Jones Cafe: A Welcomed Departure From Typical DC Nightlife

The Love Jones Cafe returned and if you weren’t in the building, then you missed out on a special evening. Presented by DCWKLY and the DCNIGHTS App, held at the swanky SAX Lounge, the Love Jones Cafe was a sophisticated soirée and a welcome departure from the typical nightlife scene here in DC.

The night began with El Lambert and The Band crooning guest with a variety of throwback and current R&B jams while guests were also treated to complimentary DeLeón Tequila and MtnDew Black Label cocktails and excellent service and bites by the SAX crew. Elegantly lit, the vibe in the house was palpable. Once the panel discussion began, let’s just say no topic was off limits.

Moderated and hosted by “The Massive Host” King Flexxa, the panel comprised of author and activist Tony Lewis, Jr, relationship blogger Diamond Mitchell, and the Duncan’s, Alfred and Sherrell, who were famously engaged and married all within 24 hours (Forever Duncan). Their insight was particularly insightful, engaging, and at times, hilarious. From the idea that reality TV has set unrealistic expectations for relationships to the “Netflix and chill”/”Hulu and Do You” generation, each panelist was able to provide personal stories as a backdrop for each topic discussed. And just like the movie, poet and spoken word artist Mr. Poetic Rock Star treated the crowd to his brand of word play.

I even gained some valuable information on love and relationships that I hadn’t even considered before. The predominantly female crowd laughed, cheered and at times added their own input for a lively and unforgettable evening. Fellas, you need to make sure you are in the building for the next Love Jones Cafe: not only was an ample amount of knowledge dropped, you could not deny the ladies showed out and filled the room with their beauty and radiance.

 

I leave you with some gems from the evening. Be sure to keep a look out for the next installment of the Love Jones Cafe, February 28th. Be there.

On trust:

We should grow together, but you shouldn’t want your spouse to change your whole vibe for you –Tony Lewis, Jr.

There are certain thing you are not going to do if your intentions are pure. –Diamond Mitchell

If I tell you and you don’t do it, then we have issues.– Alfred Duncan

On Social Media:

I was in a relationship with my husband before we were in a relationship, so when he posted that picture I knew we were in a relationship.– Sherrell Duncan

It serves as validation because we are going public. — Diamond Mitchell

On moving on from past relationships:

In relationships and in life we are the sum of our experiences. You’ve got to learn from what you’ve been through.–Tony Lewis, Jr.

The hardest thing to do is self reflect and to own up to the thing that you did in the relationship.–Sherrell Duncan

Medicate each other with love.– Alfred Duncan

If you don’t feel confident in your decision making, you won’t feel confident in the one you picked.–Diamond Mitchell

On falling in love with potential:

If we are not speaking to the potential (of the other person) then we are really doing a disservice.–Tony Lewis, Jr.

Potential expires very quickly. — Diamond Mitchell

He’s pouring into me and I’m pouring into him.– Sherrell Duncan

Check out the rest of the pictures from 1.24.17 edition of The Love Jones Cafe here!

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How To: Be Single (Because it Doesn’t Have to Suck)

Disclaimer: If you’re not interested in a serious relationship, this article isn’t for you.

Now that I have your attention, let me begin by saying, I don’t believe that being single is the worst thing in the world. In fact, it can be great depending on your stage in life. Second, as you read this please do not judge me.

Not too long ago I was the “bitter friend” that men warn their girl about. I wasn’t the bitter friend to the extent portrayed in black film, but a more subtle version. You know, the one who’s been hurt one too many times, so in an effort to prevent her friend from experiencing that same disappointment makes it her duty to point out when her girl’s man “ain’t no good” and it’s time to just “leave that boy alone”. I’m sorry guys, but every woman needs a bitter friend…it helps give a different perspective (i.e. creates balance). Thankfully I’ve grown. I’m no longer the bitter one. In fact, going into this New Year I’m actually excited to be single – or at the most, I’m content.

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Step 1: Embrace Being Single

Different seasons are meant to bring different lessons and help us grow in some way. Going through a “season of singleness” is a great time to really focus on your goals, reflect on what you want in life and in a partner, and strengthen the relationships you already have.

Being single is not a death sentence or a punishment; once you get that through your head, it won’t suck as much.

Step 2: Just Say No to the “No Goods”

2016, relationship-wise, was a bust for me.  Why? Because I attract “no-goods”. Those who have no empathy for people’s time and/or don’t want commitment, and/or want a side chick, and/or want a regular booty call, and/or got me all the way [insert four letter word rhyming with ducked] up. I can keep going, but for the sake of this post I’ll leave there. Now, a “no good” are those who are simply just that…no good. No good for a serious relationship because they “aren’t looking for that right now,” no good because they “don’t believe in titles,” etc. We’ve all experienced a “no good”. Getting back on track, 2016 brought an overwhelming amount of “no goods” into my personal space. So many, that going into 2017 I’ve made a personal promise to myself that I’d rather be single and happy than deal with a “no good” and be confused/frustrated/disappointed.

It’s not hard to identify a “no good.” They will tell you and give you signs in a very short amount of time. These signs are called “red flags” and you need to listen to them because as previously mentioned “no goods” are simply that…no good.

Step 2.5: Date With Purpose

We live in a time where people don’t date with purpose anymore. They date to date. If you want a serious relationship, you need to approach dating like you would approach a job opportunity. When you are looking for a new job, you search through available options, click the one that interests you, read through the requirements and expectations to see if it’s a good fit, apply, followed by the interview process. You see how this relates to dating? If not, let me break it down. When you find someone you are interested in, you feel them out, see if they’re a good fit, and then you apply for that “wifey/zaddy” position. Stop just dating someone because it’s “cuffing season” or (ladies) because you’re hungry. Stop it. It’s a waste of your precious time that you could be using elsewhere.

Step 3: Write Down Your Goals & Execute

What are your hobbies or things you’d like to accomplish in this next year? Instead of “finding someone”, why not explore your gift(s) and get some stuff done? You can’t force the universe to deliver your perfect mate to your front door. Stop obsessing over finding your soul mate and find yourself. Tap into your talents and use them to help better the world and those around you.

Step 4: Pray for Contentment

Pray to your higher power for contentment during your season of singleness. When you start getting anxious for affection, you’ll see yourself contemplating reaching out to “no goods” and old flings. Stay away from the “no goods” at all cost, they just aren’t worth it. Plus, they’re annoying.

When you experience moments of frustration from being by yourself, use that time to remember that there is someone out there for everyone and your person will come when the time is right.

 

Step 5: Stop Obsessing and Let the Universe do its Thing

As I said before, there is someone out there for everyone; stop worrying yourself. If you are single, take it as a blessing and opportunity to get yourself in order for when that person does come along, and you both flourish together.

Relax, do you, and let the universe do the work.

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Mumbo Sauce: What Is It and Where to Get it

To those that have tried it, Mumbo Sauce is the secret ingredient that will change your taste-buds life forever. Well, for me at least. As a junior high school kid in the city of D.C I had my very first chicken and​ french fries topped with mumbo sauce (and salt and pepper)​ experience. After that, I was hooked for life. That unforgettable experience is something that I can’t quite compare to anything else.

Some say the taste reminds them of barbecue or plum sauce. For me, it’s a combination of flavors creating the unique mumbo sauce. It is said to have started in Chicago and somehow transitioned into Chinese carryouts across the D.C and Maryland area. I suppose I’ll have to give the Chicago version a shot to see if the rumors are true.

Now, I wouldn’t say all of that just to leave you drooling. Here are a few of my personal favorite mumbo sauce hangout spots.

Jerry’s ​2016 Georgia Ave NW

For many, Jerry’s has served as the after party food spot. They are extremely quick and efficient. Back in the day it was an adventure walking inside but with the recent gentrification, it’s empty of extra stragglers outside of those actually placing orders.

Mayflower Chinese Food 4427 Wisconsin Ave NW​

Mayflower has managed to last in a neighborhood that’s perceived as uppity; bougie if you will. Let’s just say this place has been here since I was in junior high school, and I’ve been out of high school for over 10 years, yikes! Mayflower is a definite staple that will not leave you disappointed. Be cautious of the time you decide to drop in, as it’s surrounded by a few schools so there’s the possibility of an after school crowd.

Twin Dragon Carry Out 5504 3rd Street NW

If you’re looking for an out of this world egg roll, Twin Dragon is your spot. I know we aren’t discussing egg rolls here but I had to throw that in there. However, I highly suggest their chicken wings and mumbo sauce!

Let’s all agree to throw out those New Year resolutions just this once! I would love to hear which, if any, of these place you tried and loved, or any suggestions that aren’t listed here. Be sure to tag @DCWKLY

(#DCWKLY) in your mumbo sauce posts!

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Single Bells: Why Being Uncoupled During the Holidays Is So Lit

Ah yes, another holiday season is upon us. The city is draped in lights, families are coming together, differences are being put aside; the times of warm feelings of love and good cheer we get to experience once more. For years, the holidays have catered to couples – all snuggled up, having their love to keep them warm and all that jazz. Being bae-less was considered taboo and assumed that those who didn’t have that special someone was somewhere in their house pigging out on ice cream listening to “What Do the Lonely Do at Christmas”, crying silent tears. Well WRONG! This year is the year of the single one. The year of flourishing in your freedom, the time where you can feel good about not having to check in with anyone or ask permission to do anything you feel like. But the coolest thing about being single on the holidays is that those warm feelings I was talking about earlier – you get to experience them with anyone of your choosing. All this holiday love you have inside to share doesn’t have to be limited to just one. This and the others that I’ll give are why being single during the holidays is so clutch.

Not Having to Worry About Buying a Present

Flourishing in your freedom also includes on the financial side of things. Yes, you don’t have to pine about getting the perfect gift for your lady or gent. That scrilla can stay right in your pocket for more important things like finding the perfect ugly sweater for that party next week or, you know, that common thing of getting gifts for your family.

The Possibilities of Holiday Hook-Ups are Endless

There’s no better time to spread all that “cheer” than during the holidays. If being single wasn’t cool for the holidays, then we wouldn’t have such timeless songs as “Baby, It’s Cold Outside” and “Let It Snow” (SN: You can’t tell me “Baby, It’s Cold Outside” isn’t the best holiday hookup song or hookup song period) or traditions like kissing underneath the mistletoe or as soon as the clock strikes 12 on New Year’s Eve. Sure, you can have the same experience being booed up, but there is something about being single that can make it more memorable.

Solitude Is Golden

At your holiday event, whenever you’re ready to go, you can just go. You don’t have wait for your significant other to be done with a conversation with that friend, you really don’t care for, that’s gone two hours too long. Or for that holiday party that’s so dead, it’s RIP, you can bid your adieu with the quickness.

On a serious note though, another cool thing about alone time, and one that I’ve appreciated, is that you can work on building a better you. You can reflect on the year that is coming to an end – your triumphs, your failures, accomplishments, setbacks, friends you’ve gained, friends you’ve lost, things that you did great, things that you can do better and get that all together so that 2017 can be an awesome year for you; Lord knows 2016 was a doozy! As another Christmas song goes, “Nobody ought to be all alone on Christmas”, but if you are, appreciate the time as it too shall pass and maybe the next holiday go round, you may find yourself on the “other side”. Cheers!

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Washington Bulleits Holiday Party 2016 with 1893 Pepsi Cola

Written By SunniAndTheCity | SunniAndTheCity.com

This past Friday, my friend Raven and I hosted our Washington Bulleits Holiday party at Diageo House to support the YMCA! Raven and I both work with brands such as Ciroc, Bulleit and DeLeon. We’re known for throwing our fabulous monthly “Washington Bulleits Girls Nights” but this time in the spirit of the holidays, it was all about the YMCA Capital View. I’ve visited that location a few times this summer and the 150 kids that attend their after-school program became so dear to me. So it was only right that we give back to them in a big way….. TOYSSSSS!!

Huge thanks to our evening sponsor Intrepid Genius, who were so kind to donate gift bags full of their awesome goodies! Thanks Nick!!! Also, Kitchen Cray was so kind to cook A WHOLE LOT OF FOOD for us! Thanks to Chef JR, I got a week worth of leftovers. Cant forget about Justin from the YMCA, thank you for your continuous dedication to the kids.

Bulleit drinks were flowing (with the all new 1893 Pepsi Cola and Mtn Dew Black Label mixers), beautiful people, all in the spirit of the holidays! Love you all for coming!

Let’s continue to take care of our communities! Till next time, xoxo

Sunni

Photo Credit: Surpass Visuals

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Almost Christmas: An Instant Holiday Classic

Almost Christmas follows the story of a retired automotive engineer who decides on inviting his four grown children and the rest of their family to his house for a traditional holiday celebration after losing the love of his life a year earlier. It’s a big ensemble, Black holiday film from David Talbert, that’s spirited and lively enough to become a holiday staple. DC Weekly sat down with both David and one of the stars of the film, Keri Hilson, to discuss the movie, Washington D.C. and the creative Black resurgence.

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First, how did this movie come about? What was the genesis of the script?

David Talbert: “Well I’m a fan of Holiday movies and we hadn’t had one in almost a decade–not since This Christmas–so it’s been a little over 8 years. So I said, you know, it’s overdue so I wrote the script on spec and then my agent sent it over to Will Packer and he called me up and said let’s do it.

It’s also a big ensemble film as well, which allows a lot of different actors to bounce off each other.

DT: Well there was a movie that I saw called This Is Where I Leave You. It’s a great ensemble film and so I wanted to do an ensemble movie that more mirrored families that I knew growing up and populate it with singers like Keri [Hilson] and comedians and young comedians like DC Young Fly dcyoung

Keri, you act opposite JB Smoove. A really talented and funny comedian. How was it to be saddled with such an eclectic character in a film?

Keri Hilson: Someone like him, you gotta really find the balance between staying present and letting him have the shine. People like him, you never know what they’re going to say –he’s constantly improvising so I have to stay present and allow him to go. Same with Monique: you’re not gonna talk over them or win that competition. You just gotta stay present and be ready to react.

 

David, as a DC native, what are your go to spots whenever you come back in the city?

DT: It’s usually my mother’s house (laughs) but it used to be my great grandmother’s house: first stop, last stop and every stop in-between. When she passed, coming here didn’t feel the same because I would go to hers first. That was destination central for me and I don’t really know what it is now and it feels strange coming here because her spirit looms so large in D.C. and I didn’t realize it as much until she passed, like wow, that was pretty much what was driving me here.

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To make this film during a time of a seeming “Black Creative Renaissance” how does it feel to be a contributor to this and what is your feeling about the Black art being made right now?

DT: It’s like Star Trek: “to boldly go where no one has gone before”. I think this is a bold time for storytellers, songwriters, for people that have the opportunity to reshape perspective or reposition images –I think it’s a bold time. I think that’s why all races are gravitating to certain stories like Atlanta and Issa Rae’s Insecure and Luke Cage and Shonda Rhimes’ shows. I think it’s just a bold time and I think filmmakers have a responsibility to push the envelope forward.

KH: I wish I could see more of it in music to be honest. You have other genres dabbling in soul and doing R&B music and receiving higher praise for it and more accolades for something that I feel belongs to us. I could see that happening more. I’m hoping that what is happening in films and TV will allow for a wider spectrum of creativity musically. I’d love for storytelling to come back over, it’s all really party and fun right now. I’d love the stories to come back and what’s happening in this society be reflected in our music. I praise Kendrick Lamar and J Cole for their socially conscious music.

Do you see yourself moving into that direction with your music?

KH: Absolutely, and I’ve done a couple records that my heart just lead me to do. Waking up and hearing about the things happening in Nigeria forced me into the studio, you know, there’s been a number of records I’ve made from my heart and I can’t wait for people to hear them.

Almost Christmas is playing nationwide. Check your local movie theaters for dates and showtimes.

 

 

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