Written By Crystal Lambert
If there is anything I’ve learned during my dating lifetime, it’s how to be independent while maintaining a relationship. It didn’t happen overnight, and it took a lot of work within self. Over the years I started to understand how being independent not only builds your self-confidence, but can also help strengthen the relationship you are already in.
If you are unsure if you are codependent in your relationship, read these 5 signs:
1. You Make Your Plans around Their Plans
You were invited out to this party tonight and you wouldn’t mind going, but first you want to see if your significant other invites you out before you commit to any plans. Or even worse, you actually commit to going and cancel just to hang out with your significant other.
2. You’re Always Waiting for Them to Contact You When They Aren’t Around
You guys were just together an hour ago, and now you are freaking out wondering what he or she may be doing that’s keeping them from responding to your texts as quickly as you’d like them to.
3. You Are Always Doing Things for Their Benefit and Not Yours
You bend over backwards for them around the clock, and later find yourself resenting them for the time wasted.
4. You Allow the Way Your Partner Is Feeling to Dictate How You Feel
Your partner is having a rough day and out of convenience, takes his/her anger out on you. In response, your mood takes a turn for the worst
5. You Have No Hobbies of Your Own
You have a few things you’d like to try, but since you know your significant other wouldn’t be interested in them so you stick to what is comfortable and figure maybe you’ll try them out next year.
If any of these signs sound too familiar, maybe it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship. Figure out what things you could start doing to claim your sanity back and become more independent. You got this!